One-on-One

Just the two of us

A great way to spend quality time with twins, empower their individuality and truly get to know them, is to spend time alone with each one.

This way you can take the pressure off of multitasking for a little bit, give each child your full attention, get to know their interests, and let them get to know you. It’s a wonderful opportunity for each parent to bond and build a special relationship with them.

If you can designate even 20 minutes a day to spend with each of your children, a whole world opens up to them, and you. They feel important, they feel seen. During one-on-one time twins can be released from the burden of sharing, comparing and competing.

One-on-one can be a walk in the park, a trip to the grocery store, a hair cut or a visit to the library. It can also simply mean going into another room and read a book or do a puzzle. The important thing is - it’s just you and the child.

You will be amazed how different it feels being with just one twin after being with both all the time. People won’t stare as much as you walk by. Your attention is more focused. You won’t be comparing in your mind: “Emma really likes these wooden blocks, Jenny really doesn’t”. “Albert is so distracted when he walks, scar and I constantly have to wait for him”…

Instead, you can spend your time together however this child wants to spend it. If Albert is more interested exploring in the bushes than playing on the swings, you can do it without rushing him.

Allocating time for one-on-one interactions can build a healthier relationship between your twins, alleviate parents’ stress and mental fatigue from the taxing multitasking, and deepen the bond with your twins.

When the twins know they will get to spend quality time with just mum or just dad during the day, they will not feel the need to fight for your attention, and each other.