What is A Twinship

The Twin relationship

Having a twin can be wonderful. Forming a healthy relationship with your twin, twinship, can be a source of security, peace, love, and support. It can feel like you are never alone, someone always has your back.

When twinship develops organically, this can definitely be the outcome. When twins choose the frequency, terms, and level of engagement. When they establish healthy boundaries for their relationship.

However, when their friendship is forced, when their needs aren’t met, and their wishes and desires aren’t represented in that relationship, the twinship can at times become a source of pain, anger, resentment, and anxiety.

Twinship isn’t something we, adults, can build for twins. It develops over time and looks different for every twin. When twins choose to spend time together, enjoy each other’s company, acknowledge and accommodate each other’s needs - their twinship can truly be magical.

Expecting them to always love each other, always be there for one another, and always be friends- isn’t realistic. For any relationship. Being twins does not automatically imply that they will get along. It is up to them to figure this out.

All we can do is give them space, time, and opportunities to learn who they are, what they need and want, who they want to spend time with, and let them do the rest. If they find real joy in one another, they will want to pursue their twinship further. Yet it needs to be a choice. It is their choice.