What is A Twinship

Twinship is the relationship between twins.

Having a twin can be wonderful. Forming a healthy relationships with your twin, twinship, can be a source of security, peace, love and support. It can feel like you are never alone, someone always got your back.

When twinship develops organically, this can definitely be the outcome. When twins choose the frequency, terms and level of engagement. When they establish healthy boundaries for their relationship.

However, when their friendship is forced, when their needs aren’t met and their wishes and desires aren’t represented in that relationship the twinship can at times become a source of pain, anger, resentment and anxiety.

Twinship isn’t something we, adults, can build for twins. It develops over time and looks different for every twin. When twins choose to spend time together, enjoy each other’s company, acknowledge and accommodate each other’s needs - their twinship can truly be magical.

Expecting them to always love each other, always be their for one another, and always be friends- isn’t realistic. For any relationship. Them being twins does not automatically imply they are going to get along. It is up to them to figure this out.

All we can do is give them space, time and opportunities to learn who they are, what they need and want, who they want to spend time with, and let them do the rest. If they find real joy in one another, they will want to pursuit their twinship further. Yet it needs to be a choice. It is their choice.